Saying · After the death of Khadija RA
If you want an elderly lady, then Sawda; if you want a younger lady, then Aisha.
Suggested to the Prophet ﷺ in the months after Khadija RA's death, when he had not been seen to smile and had no wife.
~Shawwal, 10th year of the dawah (c. 620 CE) · 2 BH
After the death of Khadija bint Khuwaylid RA, the Prophet ﷺ was not seen smiling for many months. Khawlah bint Hakim RA suggested he remarry, offering Sawda bint Zam'a RA (an elderly widow, recently disowned by her family after her conversion and left with no one to care for her following the death of her husband al-Sukran ibn Amr) or Aisha bint Abi Bakr RA (a young girl). The Prophet ﷺ married both within a month of each other, marrying Sawda RA out of compassion for her circumstances, probably in Shawwal of the 10th year of the dawah, about six months after Khadija RA's death. She was the eldest of all his wives.
Sawda RA became the second wife of the Prophet ﷺ, following Khadija RA.
Other events recorded in 2 BH. Their order within the year is not established; use the storyline above for the sequence.
If you want an elderly lady, then Sawda; if you want a younger lady, then Aisha.
Suggested to the Prophet ﷺ in the months after Khadija RA's death, when he had not been seen to smile and had no wife.